This isn't a setback....I promise
Tuesday. 11.21.06 9:17 am
Ok...so nothing has changed about the breakthrough I wrote about the other day. I've just been doing some thinking lately about the idea of "love." The most obvious question to me is....what is it? Well over the past three weeks...I believe I have come up with a list of all the things love is...here's what I have so far:
LOVE IS.....
*not being afraid to make yourself completely vulnerable
*never letting that special someone out of your thoughts...even when they are not around
*waking up at 2 in the morning and driving 40 minutes...just so you can spend the "night" with them
*doing something that scares you out of your mind...just because you know it will make them happy
*driving them to the dentist and spending all day with them when they have their wisdom teeth removed
*writing them letters every other week because you know it makes them happy
*not wanting to go on vacation if they can't be by your side the entire time
*planning a cabin get-away in the winter because you would like nothing more than to spend three nights with them sitting by the fire
*constantly telling them that they mean the world to you...even if they are too scared to say it in return
*going out of your way just so you can wake up in their arms the following morning
*telling your friends it's time to go home because you want to spend the rest of the night with them
*not being afraid to admit when you made mistakes
*wanting nothing more than to make up for those mistakes
*making it through the tough times....because the good times are worth the bad
*feeling like there is no place you'd rather be than lying next to them
*being able to sit around the house all day....and not getting bored...just because you are in their company
*not caring about how much something costs....love is worth any price
*uprooting your life and moving to a different state just to be with them
*always being honest...you always call when you say you are going to
*losing control of your emotions sometimes
*being a shoulder to cry on...even if it is your fault that they are crying
*making personal sacrifices...sometimes you need to hang out with them instead of your friends
*never forgetting why you fell in love in the first place....feelings of love don't go away...they only get covered up
*holding their hand in a haunted house...because you know they are scared
*dropping by their house every day after work...even if it is just to see them for a few minutes
*sharing the same carton of ice cream...and not being mad that they always eat more than you do
*a willingness to change yourself whenever possible...even if it takes awhile to realize
*never saying "it's too late to change the past"....it is NEVER too late
*making them a cd...full of songs that remind you of them
*never giving up on them...even when it feels like all hope is lost
*learning to compromise...everything is not about you
*always giving them a second chance....love is worth the risk of getting hurt again
*always saying "I love you" when you hang up the phone...just in case something happens....they will be the last words you say to each other
*a deep...unending feeling.....not a bunch of quotes and cliches
*wanting the person you love to be happy...even if it means giving them up
*taking off work....just to spend the day with them
*holding on to all the things that remind you of them....even when it is in your best interest to forget
*never making them feel bad about themselves....you need to know when to make jokes and when to be serious
*not being afraid to say "I'm sorry"
*doing the little things that make them happy...like walking around in Ocean City looking for different license plates...even if you may not enjoy it
*last but not least...LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL...it doesn't go away just because you are experiening difficulties....or just because they did something that really upset you
Wow, this list is way bigger than I intended it to be...I'll be the first person to admit that I never did all of the things on this list, but I did try to do most of them. I know it seems like I have some hopelessly romantic view of love...but hey...that's who I am...especially now. The next serious relationship I am in....I plan to bring all of these things to the table....because to me....that's what love is.....
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